Jo Worgan column

Guardian columnist Jo Worgan.
Guardian columnist Jo Worgan.
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This story begins when Tom found his old ‘lullaby’, one of those soothing lullaby toys that you place over a baby’s cot.

This particular lullaby toy was Stephen’s, and then later on Tom’s and I had forgotten all about it. Both boys were playing in Stephen’s room and somehow Tom had managed to find it, however he become suddenly distressed when he saw that the bear had not gone all the way up to the moon.

He was shouting that it was broken as the bear could not reach the moon (it was not intended to so do so, as there is a short piece of string that allows the bear to dangle from the moon).

However in Tom’s eyes, this meant that the toy was broken as the bear could not reach his home.

I just thought that he believed the toy to be broken, but his understanding went much deeper than this. He believed that the bear could not go home and this is what was upsetting to him.

Tom asked me to ’fix the moon’. I did not know what to do. How could I make everything better for him? Somehow, I managed to distract him and I hid the toy and luckily he did not find it.

However he asked me where it was. I don’t know where this thought came from, but I told him, ‘the lullaby is now in space’.

Miraculously this calmed him. He ran to our bedroom window and looked out at the sky and asked me,’ is lullaby in space?’

I said, ‘Yes, it floated up into the sky’. At this point I was rescued by Andrew who went to the window where Tom was standing and asked him, ‘do you want to see the lullaby in the sky on my phone?’

Andrew has an app on his phone that allows you to see all of the stars in the sky. So he did this, he showed Tom the night sky and pointed to a star telling him that this was the lullaby, on its way to the moon.

Tom was so happy.

I forget sometimes how Tom sees the world; he sees it in a totally different light to those around him and at times it is so very difficult to understand him.

However this was about my little boy who was upset about a little bear.

A little bear that in his eyes, was not able to go home.